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Rubin Battino has worked for many years teaching people to cope well. In Coping he offers a wealth of ideas and resources for people who wish to cope better with their own life-challenging illness, such as cancer; and for those who care for others with such conditions. A key challenge in all cases is in managing your own state, you ability to think through the current debilitating situation towards a more positive future. Battino says that “How you respond in adversity can have a profound effect on the physical course of the disease.” Simply by realising that you are not alone, that many people have been this way before, and that you can benefit from their learning, their knowledge of things that work will change your state.

A life challenging disease can be very draining for both -˜client' and the carer. It often means not being able to cope not only with the illness, but with the day-to-day needs of life, and the extra burden of medium or long term care. It's easy to get dragged down. This book offers a variety of ways of pulling yourself up again.

If you are a carer, you may ask yourself: “What can/do to help?” Battino provides a number of practical techniques and therapies that are established as having a positive effect on those who are suffering life-challenging diseases. The words you use are important; they play a vital part in personal healing, because they have an effect on the body and the physical symptoms. Are you a patient -˜patient'? Are you just going to wait for some miracle to happen. Or are you going to do whatever it takes to become healthier, not only in body, but in mind and spirit as well? The strategies in this book will help you develop a more positive state of mind, such as finding positive language to describe yourself, and for making clear agreements with professionals about how you are going to be treated. A positive state of mind makes it easier for carers and clients to avoid being sucked into the downward spiral of blame and guilt.

Coping offers a number of surprising alternative ideas, techniques and strategies for coping more effectively. He covers Relaxation, Massage, Meditation, Guided Visualisation, Art therapy, Journaling, and many other effective approaches. Some will want to share their healing processes with others in a support group. Talking about their illness helps. There is the old saying: a trouble shared is a trouble halved, so forming or joining a support group may benefit them. Others prefer to contemplate alone, and write down their thoughts privately.

There are several appendices including an extensive bibliography of research and popular treatments; and a list of useful websites - because these days the major sources of information on health and medicine is on the internet, so it is helpful to have some recommended starting points for your own research. However, the book has an American bias, and you would probably want to ignore the American phone numbers.

Once you have gathered relevant information from whatever source, including health service professionals, you will need to sort it out. Battino provides a set of questions that you should ask that will help you understand it, and so that you can ask informed questions of those involved in the healing process.

We still do not really know how healing happens. Much of the time our bodies just get on and do it, so long as we don't interfere too much by making demands on ourselves when what we need to do is actually very little. However, all of us can take more responsibility for improving our own health using some of the methods Rubin Battino explores.